I was born 1987, that makes me 24 years old now. I found out that I am a lesbian in 2003 when I was 15. If I look back now I actually could have known it a lot earlier as I fell in love (well, how you fall when you are 11) with my history teacher and a girl in my class. However, it took me until I was 15 that I realized myself that I was a lesbian. Even I lived in a pretty conservative part of Germany my parents brought me up quite liberal and therefore I personally never had a problem that I like girls.
Of course at first I was afraid how my friends and family would react. Shortly after I found out I liked girls I told some of my friends and all of them reacted positively and never made a big deal out of it.
Some months later also my parents found out. At first it was not that easy for them. I guess it was because they just did not know any homosexual people and were not sure what to expect from me. However, they always gave me the feeling that I was loved. And when they realized that I was still their daughter like I have been before they also got used to me being a lesbian.
When I was 16 I had my first girlfriend. She was also accepted by my family. We were together several months and when we broke up my parents were also there for me to comfort me.
As I grew older more and more people got to know that I was a lesbian. When I finished school in 2007 basically everyone of my classmates knew that I liked girls and never was it any problem. I never was bullied or was made fun about which I am really greatful for.
I started doing my Bachelor’s degree in German Studies. In 2009 I spend a semester abroad in Finland where I met my girlfriend. Meanwhile she moved to Germany and right now we are living together and are happier than ever. We as a couple are widely accepted in every part of our daily life. She comes with me to my aunt’s birthday, we spend Christmas at my parents place, our neighbors know that we are a couple; everybody at our universities know that we are together. This summer I am going to finish my Master’s degree and my girlfriend will come together with my partents to my graduation celebration. At the moment my life is really going as it should and I could not wish for anything better.
I just want to tell every young lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or transexual that no matter how hard and frustrating the sitution is that he or she is in right now: your life is worth fighting for. There are people out there that will love you just the way you are and it is possible to live the life that you want. Fight for it. Be strong. Be yourself.